An Unfortunate Truth

I have my issues with some transgender people.  I know that saying this will drive some away from me in life, who believe that I'm a hypocrite for this position.  I am not exactly eager to have a conversation about it, with everybody...  here.  However, I definitely have a sense of my life's purpose, and that is to appeal to everybody's best side, their humanity...  so that the conversations that I do have, both here and out in the real world, focus on creating an environment for a free and open dialogue on issues of sexuality.

It was a black transgender lesbian activist who organized / started the Stonewall riots. For that fact, I'm eternally grateful.  Had I been there in that place and time, I'd 100% have joined up with them.  The difference is that they were adults, and had experienced growing up, so that they developed, not just mentally, but physically enough that 1)  it wouldn't be such a shock to their physical body.  Coming out is one thing entirely different than making changes to one's anatomy, so early in their physical development, when it can be harmful...  physically dangerous.  If they're 18+ (legally adults), they have their American right to live their lives as they want, so long as they're not hurting anybody.

I have some quotes that stick out in my mind now.  I'm putting them out here, because I know I do have young readers out there, and I know this because with 600 - 700 readers a week, realistically some have to be, or are looking for a safe place to read and talk about this all.

There...  I've laid out what I have to say for now.  Feels good to get it out and off my chest.  Questions on anything unsaid or said ?  Ask.  If it does or doesn't have anything to do with me ?  Ask.


"The night I posted it, I cried like a fucking baby.  It was like all the frequency just clicked to a change in my head. All the receptors were now receiving a different signal, and I was happy. I hadn't been happy in so long."

-- Frank Ocean


 "Every day, I walk by the many kids that go school here in Midtown Manhattan.  I see bullying and name calling all the time.  For the most part, it seems relatively harmless, especially when the kid being picked on can fight back a bit.  I usually roll my eyes and keep walking, avoiding the after school energy of these 13 and 14 year old's.

Today, however, I witnessed bullying of a different kind.  The kind that churns your stomach and makes you truly angry.  I was walking out of my building when I saw a group of boys throwing around and singling out another boy.  When the victim tried to walk away, one of the others spat at him and called him a ‘faggot.'  I yelled to the kids the only thing that could come to my mind:  "Don't use that word.  Back off !!!"

​-- Matt Doyle


 "When it comes to suicide prevention and crisis prevention, I can't stress how important it is to work through it, and get to that better moment, because the better moment will come.  I was fortunate to reach that better moment, but so many people are not, and so to tell them that these resources are out there, even if they never call, is literally life saving."

-- Tyler Oakley